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5 Days of Body Positivity: Day Three

  "You define beauty yourself. Society doesn’t define your beauty." ~ Lady Gaga Body Positivity and Others   The Story It was my first semester at Old Dominion University (ODU). I was on my way back to my dorm after having a wonderful night with my friends at their apartment. My dorm was a good 10–15-minute walk away but I didn’t mind because it was the weekend and students were roaming all over. About halfway to my destination a group of 4 or 5 guys stopped me, all of which were extremely handsome. One proceeded to ask for my number, and I politely declined. He then asked if he could come back to my dorm with me or I to his and I politely declined again, letting him know that I was a lesbian (true at the time). I wished them all a good night and continued walking toward my dorm. As I walked away, I heard something that would stick with me for the rest of my life. This young man decided that in response to my rejection he would “moo” as he walked away. Yes, that’s right

5 Days of Body Positivity: Day Two

  "It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see." ~ Gabourey Sidibe Body Positivity and the Self The Story Picture it, Virginia 2019. I go to Roanoke Hospital to have a Sleeve Gastrectomy, a weight loss surgery where up to 80% of my stomach would be removed. The surgery was counted as a successful one because other than some post anesthesia tachycardia, I had no problem before or during my surgery as well after while in recovery at the hospital the day after. Recovering fully from this surgery was difficult yet I was so excited to shed these 200 lbs.! My starting weight was 411 lbs. (my highest weight being 423 lbs.) and my goal weight was 200 – 225 lbs. I began losing weight extremely fast in my first month. I was ahead of schedule and my doctors were very impressed for a few months following. Then something happened; well actually, a lot of something's happened, and I stopped losing weight. The pandemic hit, I lost ar

5 Days of Body Positivity: Day One

  “Hating our bodies is something that we learn, and it sure as hell is something that we can unlearn.”―Megan Jayne Crabbe   The Story You may be asking yourself, “Nijeria, why did you decide to write your very first blog series on body positivity?” Well, let me tell you a little story: Picture it, Virginia 2004 (or whatever Sophia said from The Golden Girls). My friends and I lined up to have our weight and height taken by a random set of doctors during our mandatory gym class. When I stepped up to have mine taken, I could already see the level of concern on the doctors’ face. I stepped on scale and instantly, I regretted my decision to do so. Although, it wasn’t like I really had a choice. The scale read “100 lbs” and I was mortified. Why? Everyone else’s reading was below 80 lbs. The doctor looked at me with disgust on her face as she silently wrote it down in her notebook and then ushered me to the back with the other students who had already gone. Now, I had always been fat. I was